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Common Mistakes Couples Make When Getting Divorced

Divorce is an emotional and challenging time in your life. High emotions can drive actions and cause well-meaning couples to make mistakes during the divorce process. These mistakes can negatively affect your case. Learn more about the most common mistakes couples make when getting divorced below. 

Talking Negatively About Your Ex

When tensions run high, it’s easy to say something you may regret later. When you go through a divorce, though, these statements can be used against you regarding custody arrangements, spousal support, and property division. Refrain from talking negatively to your spouse in person or through electronic communication like texts and emails. You also shouldn’t speak negatively about your ex on social media. Most importantly, you should never talk negatively about your spouse to your children. Children should feel secure in their relationship with both parents, and any attempts to manipulate children into parental alienation can have ramifications in court.

Make Expensive Purchases

Divorce may be a good time for a fresh start, and you may want to treat yourself by making a large purchase like a sports car, boat, or exotic vacation. However, it’s best to wait to make these purchases until the divorce is finalized. If not, your ex may use the purchase to show the court that you earn more than initially indicated on income verification paperwork. This could impact how much child or spousal support you are ordered to pay. 

Creating an Under-the-Table Time-Sharing Agreement

Parenting plans, also called time-sharing agreements, are required for all divorces when minor children are involved in Florida. If you and your spouse have an amicable split, you may think that coming up with your own plan that the court doesn’t know about will be sufficient. If you submit a parenting plan but follow a different schedule once the divorce is finalized, it will be hard to enforce if your ex suddenly decides not to do what you agreed to. When a dispute in time-sharing occurs, the court will reference the written and approved parenting plan as a guide to how the children should split their time.

Not Getting a Lawyer 

Some couples who mutually want the divorce think they can handle the distribution of their marital assets and develop a time-sharing schedule. Things may go well at first, but things go downhill quickly when your ex brings up the first topic you disagree on. Have someone representing you and your family’s best interests throughout the divorce process by hiring an experienced family law attorney, like Thomas R. Peppler of Peppler Law, P.A. 

Stall or Refuse to Negotiate 

If you don’t want to get divorced, you may think that refusing to sign the paperwork is a good way to stall or cancel the divorce request. However, this isn’t true. If you don’t respond to the divorce petition within 20 days, your spouse can file for a default judgment, and you won’t get a say in how the divorce is settled. Similarly, you may think that elongating the process over petty possessions may delay the proceedings long enough to win your spouse back. This rarely occurs, and these tactics can make your ex even more upset. The more willing you are to communicate with your spouse, the better the divorce outcome will be.  

Attempting to Get Revenge 

You may want to use the divorce proceedings to get revenge on your spouse for wrongdoing, such as requesting possessions out of spite or asking for over-the-top spousal support payments. However, this usually backfires. Courts want spouses to work together to agree to an arrangement for the future. Attempts to seek revenge or punish a spouse for their actions during the marriage will not be honored. 

Hiding Marital Assets 

You may think about hiding marital property to avoid having it valued and potentially given to your ex while getting divorced. The implications of willingly hiding assets from your spouse and the family court outweigh any benefit of concealing the asset. The consequences of hiding assets are severe: you could be charged with perjury, face jail time, and be ordered to turn over the entire asset’s value to your ex. 

Settle Your Divorce Amicably with Peppler Law, P.A. 

Don’t make these common divorce mistakes: let our team at Peppler Law help you settle your divorce by working with you and your spouse for an arrangement that benefits both of you in the future. Call our office or use our live chat feature to discuss your case. 

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