It is a fallacy that all divorces happen in the courtroom. In reality no two divorces are completely alike and there are many ways to inject preferences into the process.

Of course, if you and your ex-spouse are very acrimonious toward each other, the only option may be a trial divorce. But if both you and your ex-spouse are on reasonably amicable terms, you may be able to choose a collaborative divorce. According to Forbes Magazine, a collaborative divorce may save you a lot of time, money and headache.

What is a collaborative divorce?

In a collaborative divorce set up, both parties have their own lawyers. This is in contrast to a mediated divorce where both parties may share a lawyer or not even have a lawyer at all. It is also in contrast to a trial divorce, which might include multiple lawyers and a parade of judges.

Collaborative divorces are a good option for couples who are mainly in agreement on the terms of divorce, but want to have extra legal protection when discussing certain aspects. So if you and your ex-spouse are amicable but do not entirely agree upon child support or alimony, the lawyers will help you negotiate an agreement.

Are there any negatives?

At the heart of a collaborative divorce there is a willingness to negotiate. If you and your ex-spouse are on bad terms, then it is likely that nothing will come out of a collaborative divorce. In this instance, trial divorce may be your best option.

You also have to feel empowered enough to negotiate for your desires. Sometimes, one party of the divorce does not push enough for their wants and needs and ends up disappointed.