While the process of divorce is difficult enough, dealing with the aftermath can be even more challenging in some respects. In the modern courtroom, co-parenting is a very popular choice for parenting post-divorce. However, this does not mean that a co-parenting relationship is easy to maintain, particularly if you have an acrimonious relationship with your spouse. According to Helpguide.org, communication is everything when it comes to maintaining positive co-parenting.

Communication is very important, particularly if you and your ex-spouse have a bad history. Having a businesslike tone is absolutely vital for a good co-parenting, and a good way to conceptualize this is to imagine that the business at hand is the kids. Namely: do not let the conversation get personal, and restrict your communication to things that directly involve the children.

A good way to ensure a professional veneer is to limit your conversations to a written medium. Texting is one way to do this, but if you really want to go for “professional,” using email may be the way to go. In certain situations, you may wish to limit the number of times you email back and forth over the course of a week or a month. Email is also useful since it will leave a digital paper trail so that there is no confusion over what was agreed to when.

You may also find it advantageous to have the drop off zone for custody exchange be in a public area. So instead of picking up or dropping off the kids at each others’ houses, you may wish to meet at a restaurant or library to do the exchange.