For many, summer brings thoughts of relaxation, outdoor gatherings, and more time together with family and friends. Summer holidays, kids home from school and family vacations often conjure thoughts of laughter, fun and togetherness.
If your marriage is struggling, however, spending more time with your spouse may instead result in anxiety, stress and frustration. In fact, the summer months are often a time for making difficult choices about whether to remain in the marriage. Family law professionals suggest taking some time over the summer to obtain information about the process, which could help you make a wise decision.
A lot to consider
Many think of January as divorce month. Couples come through the holidays feeling let down and discontent, so they plan a fresh start for the new year. However, the decision to divorce does not often come that quickly. Those feelings of unhappiness may be simmering under the surface for months or years. During a long summer or a family vacation that doesn't turn out the way you expect, thoughts of divorce may rise to the surface.
This summer may be a good time for you and your spouse to look into family counseling to see if you can resolve your issues before taking the life-changing step of ending your marriage. However, if you have even considered divorce, it is wise to take precautionary steps as early as possible. This includes obtaining information about the common issues that arise during a divorce, such as:
- Child custody and parenting time
- The division of your marital property
- Living arrangements
- Child support issues
- Spousal support
It will be important to keep these matters away from the children as long as possible. While you know your children and their level of maturity, you certainly do not want to cause them anxiety if there is a chance you and your spouse will be able to repair your marriage.
Who do you listen to?
You will probably have your share of advice from well-meaning friends, especially those who have gone through divorces themselves. However, it is important that you obtain counsel that is objective and knowledgeable. Even if you are not certain which direction to take, visiting a Florida attorney to learn about your rights, your options and what you can expect from the process may help you determine if divorce is really the path you want to take.