Nearly every parent here in Orlando, or anywhere else for that matter, knows that many kids rival the best psychologists, interrogators and con artists in the world. If they can find a weakness in their parents' solidarity, they will exploit it. Even though this is meant to be a lighthearted take on how children attempt to manipulate their parents into getting what they want, it has enough of a bite to keep parents on their guard.
Presenting a united front challenges even happily married parents, so if you are in the midst of a divorce, you may already understand that you and the other parent need to find a way to remain a team even though your marriage is ending.
A good parenting plan goes a long way
The contents of your parenting plan provide you and the other parent with a written outline of how you expect your co-parenting relationship to go post-divorce. Even though your children may not be able to manipulate you and their other parent, when the two of you work together and maintain that united front, you give your children the following benefits:
- They know what you expect of them and what to expect regardless of whose house they are at.
- They know you both love them, which helps them adjust to post-divorce life better, have better self-esteem and feel more secure.
- They tend to develop fewer negative behavior and mental issues such as ADHD and depression.
- They see how the two of you interact, which gives them an example of how to engage in healthy relationships.
- They learn how to deal with conflict and other problems peacefully and effectively.
If you want to provide these things for your children despite the end of your marital relationship, then you need to start by putting aside your negative feelings for each other, learn how to communicate better and resolve to parent together even though you are divorced.
How do you get there?
By now, you probably have several ideas about how to give your children the smoothest and least traumatic transition to their post-divorce lives, but how to put them into an agreement that will meet with the approval of a Florida court may elude you.
Fortunately, even if you decide to remain out of court in order to put together your own parenting plan, you do not have to do so alone. In fact, even in a "friendly" custody situation, you need to protect your rights as you advocate for your children. Enlisting some advice and guidance only makes sense in order to achieve your goals.